How to eliminate the “Imposter Syndrome” feeling
Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern in which an individual will doubt their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a “fraud.” These individuals internally believe that they do not deserve all they have achieved.
I once suffered from imposter syndrome, and through a lot of daily prayer and self-encouragement, I’ve been able to minimize that feeling drastically. However, sometimes that feeling still tries to creep up every once in a while.
I remember prior to graduating in 2012, I was determined to land an internship in public relations. I did that. I locked down two PR internships in Atlanta for one year – both highly competitive internships WITHOUT PAY. I started out as a true intern – running to pickup Pepsi and Coke cans for client meetings, but I learned valuable skill sets. After that year was up, I was determined to get a job at an agency. I did that. I was challenged, learned, and pushed my way up for four years. Next, I was determined to get a position as a PR Specialist. I did that. None of it was easy.
To others, it seemed like I was on track, but I used to think that I wasn’t doing enough. No accomplishment was ever enough. I had to be doing more, more, more!! Well, I’m here to be honest and say, CALM DOWN!! You are exactly where you need to be. If you know your craft and great at it – embrace it. Don’t allow others’ “outward successes” fool you into thinking that you aren’t good and that you have so far to go.
Former first lady, Michelle Obama speaks on this feeling in her new book, Becoming Michelle: “I have been at probably every powerful table that you can think of, I have worked at nonprofits, I have been at foundations, I have worked in corporations, served on corporate boards, I have been at G-summits, I have sat in at the U.N.: They are not that smart."
Let that last line sink in for a bit. Highlight it and place it on a sticky note if necessary. The only person you should be working to outcompete is your yesterday self. You will definitely make mistakes and fail, but failure is good.
I’m not the most outspoken person when it comes to my goals or life-lessons, but that’s what my blog is for – to help inspire others who might be feeling like they don’t deserve to be where they are. I’ve worked really hard to get to this point, and it’s only the beginning in the grand scheme of things.
This week calm your racing spirit. If you’re determined and have the will to get there, you will. And not on anyone else’s timeline. Keep working, grinding or whatever you do! You got this!
Sending love and positive vibes your way! Yvonne Camille