ALEXA: Play "Friends" by The Carters
Often we hear about the various types of friends to keep away from our circle, but what about the ones we need to let in and place a #CheckMark? I’ve never been the one to have an ongoing Christmas-list of "friends," so when I grant that title, I don’t take it lightly. That title must be earned, and not used so loosely as many tend to do.
Since my blog operates in the spirit of positivity, I want to talk about the friends we all need in our circle instead of the ones to remove. Based on personal experiences and reflecting on some of my own characteristics, I've created four titles for us to decipher between the #A1s and the counterfeits. Here are my top four friend titles everyone should have in their corner:
1. The Prayer Warrior – To me, this is one of the most important friends to have in your corner. At some point in our lives, we all need at least one friend we can call on – no matter the situation – to have a crying, shouting and spirit-filled prayer session. Are they feeding you spiritually? Helping you move closer to God? This friend will honestly pray what’s best for you and encourage your overall spiritual walk. Find one of those, then #CheckMark!
2. The Front-Seat Rider – This is your loyal friend. The friend that will drop what they’re doing to assist in crisis-mode. You can call this friend if stranded, and they’ll come pick you up! No doubt, you can count on this friend without question; they’ll go with you to trial. Proverbs 20:6 says, “Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly reliable?” Find one of those, then #CheckMark!
3. The Eye-of-the-Hurricane – As we go through our daily life routines, facing major trials and tests are inevitable. When everything around you may seem to be falling apart, this friend is your calming place. You can be completely transparent and open with this friend without judgement. You can enter this friend's space and be your most vulnerable self. Your conversations will not go beyond the four walls of discussion. They bring you so much peace in the middle of your storm. They are literally a shoulder to cry on. Find one of those, then #CheckMark!
4. The Life Coach – This friend shoots it straight from the hip! They will tell it like it is whether you like it or not. The honesty is so real, and you just know it. This friend will inform you when you’re about to make a poor-life decision but motivate you all at the same time in a different direction. They are smart and wise beyond time. Talk to this friend about business, goals, and strategies; their opinion is valuable. Find one of those, then #CheckMark!
There are more great friend titles out there, but I’ve dubbed these four to be the best. Are they perfect? Of course not! At some point, we all fall short by disappointing the ones we love. Don't feel bad, that's life #ItHappens. However, these four stand the test - literally through all of the crazy ups-and-downs.
Friends are there to help you grow and evolve into the best version of yourself and vice versa. When the waves get bumpy, they'll pull you up regardless. This week, evaluate your circle and determine who is who. And if you can't quite figure it out, remember this verse, Proverbs 18:24 states, "There are "friends" who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother." Which friend are you?
Sending love and positive vibes your way! Yvonne Camille