Core Values Set the Stage
Formulating personal core values sets the precedent for how you operate in everyday life interactions. It is what partly defines you as a person and develops your overall character. Having these values will provide clarity and direction for how you want to live your life. If someone were to put 3-to-4 different people you know in a room, each should be able to mention at least one of your core values based on how you function.
Here are my top five core values (in no particular order) that set the stage for my personal life:
1. Loyalty – This value is extremely important to me. If I honestly care for someone, I’m going to demonstrate loyalty no matter what – good or bad terms. To me, this value represents respect for the other individual. Now don’t confuse this with letting someone run all over you, but simply understand that it’s showing support and staying true to yourself no matter the circumstance.
2. Dependability – One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone tells me that they’re going to do something and don’t follow through. If you can’t do it, then say that. I understand things occur, but for the most part I try my best to be impeccable with my words and do my part when needed. It’s not often we run across individuals whom we can honestly say will show up for both the important and simple things of life.
3. Integrity – I learned this value from my mother and grandmother at an early age. Simply put, integrity boils down to “do the right thing when others are watching and also when they’re not.” Don’t ever believe you’re getting away with something wrong because it will always come back to bite you. It might not be right then, but it will eventually occur. If you can’t do it in front of someone, then that’s your sign.
4. Trustworthy – Trust is a big deal for me. It takes a lot for individuals to gain it and seconds to lose it. This value requires us to be our most transparent and vulnerable selves. In order to gain trust, you must demonstrate it in return. Trustworthiness also ties in with loyalty in regard to not spreading sensitive or important conversations previously shared with individuals - whatever state you're currently facing with that person. It’s all about having someone’s back and feeling good knowing that they have yours in return.
5. Honesty – Being honest is a big pill to swallow. It doesn’t always feel good, but it’s what’s best for you and the surrounding people in your life. It’s funny that honesty is what we all seek, but once it’s given; depending on personality, we get upset. I know from experience on both the giving and receiving end. At the end of the day, you’d rather someone tell you the truth than to hurt you with false hope and fairytales.
This week figure out your core values. It will determine how you handle decision making and illustrate what's most important to you as a person. I'm still learning to practice these values daily as well. It’s never too late to shape your character into a better version of yourself. It’s your life and your story – you can rewrite it whenever you please.
Sending love and positive vibes your way! Yvonne Camille